How to handle a play-date.
With a little advance plannning, play-dates can go smoothly by following these simple guidelines. The next time your child is invited to a play-date, they will be more comfortable when using their social manners because they have practiced them at home when they hosted a friend.
First, talk about wanting to have a friend over and see how mom/dad feel about it. In order to avoid any embarrassment to the child and friend, this conversation should take place privately, not in front of the friend. Settle on a day and time and remember to inquire if he/she has food or pet allergies.
Next, talk about what activities you can plan. Will the activity take place outside or in? Might it be baking cookies, creating with Legos, biking, crafts, a movie, making music with instruments or playing basketball? Once you start thinking of ideas the list could be endless. Settle on several ideas that you can offer and then gather the necessary materials in a convenient location.
Snack time. Make sure you have a few snack and beverage choices. First offer the friend a choice of snack and beverage. It is easier on your guest to be offered a choice of a drink. You can ask “Would you like chocolate milk or apple juice?” This approach is polite and is so much nicer than saying “What would you like to drink?” Always let your friend have their choice of cookies first. Remember not to eat or drink before first offering food to your friend. When finished, put your dishes in the sink and push in the chairs or bar stools.
On the day of the play-date greet your friend at the door. Once your friend arrives, answer the door and invite your friend and their parent inside. Introduce your friend to your mom and dad. Show the friend where they can put their shoes, coat and backpack.
Remember to ask if they are OK with your pet dog or cat. If they are somewhat afraid or allergic, ask the friend to wait for a moment while you put the pet away. Once you return, show the friend where the bathroom is.
When you are the guest in a friend’s home, remember to help pick up and put away toys and materials at the end of the play-date. Always thank the parent, “Thank you Mrs. Smith for letting me play.”
Good Manners are about making others comfortable.
Armida Geiger, Owner of Adelie School of Protocol is a certified etiquette instructor from the International School of Protocol in Baltimore, Maryland. Offering a variety of Dining Etiquette and Social Manners Classes throughout the Seacoast and surrounding New Hampshire area. Located in Durham, New Hampshire. 603-868-7156. www.adeliesop.wordpress.com
